Category Archives: Same-sex attraction

i’m a gay adventist – so what are my biblical options?

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Gay and lesbian Adventists often believe they have only two options — either to submit to change therapy in order to become “heterosexual” or to join the gay world in indulging in gay sex. But this either/or argument is one invented by the devil himself, I’m sure, because attempting either option can result in a kind of slavery. And Satan specializes in slavery. The Good News is that Jesus came to give us freedom! So please stay with me to examine some other options. option 1: sexual orientation change In other essays I’ve expressed disagreement with the philosophy of change ministries. (See “About Change Ministries” and “Change Ministries Revisited.”) So, I don’t consider that a viable option, except as a … Continue reading →

god used a loving church to bring us back

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I was born in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, in 1937 to a strict Catholic family. I have a brother five years younger, and a sister ten years younger. My parents are both still alive and still very much in love. My grandfather built our church. I was head altar boy, serving as page for the Archbishop on occasion. I went to Catholic grade school and high school. I got straight A’s in math and science classes. It came naturally. I could read the textbook through once, and take the final exam. This usually got me dubbed “teacher’s pet,” and the school bullies often chased me around trying to de-pants me, etc. (Later on I sort of wished I had let them!) I … Continue reading →

why would a redeemed seventh-day adventist call himself gay?

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This is the gist of a question put to me on the Sabbath School Net blog. I will share a few reasons. Community 1. We are liars when we say we have no sin. 1 John 1:10 It’s very important in fellowship to tell the truth of ourselves with each other. It is up to ourselves what to share and what not to share with others. It cannot and should not be dictated by another. In that sharing we constantly focus on JESUS loving where we are now and loving us all to completion 2. To find safety in fellowship. A Body of Christ is called to be a safe place for trust to build and connection to be formed … Continue reading →

michael kelly on relationships, opposite sex, homosexuality and …

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Powerful sermon that tells it like it is. While Michael explains the causes of homosexuality a bit differently than I do, he recognizes that biological and environmental factors work together to form a homosexual orientation. I appreciate his final point – that we need safe environments for life change to take place. +20

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good news for gay adventists

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The Good News is that you don’t have to pretend any more! You don’t have to pretend that you are straight. You don’t have to pretend that you have things under control. And you don’t have to pretend that the Bible really doesn’t say anything against gay sex. You don’t have to pretend that you’re not a sinner. Pretending is a lot of work, especially if you have to do it all the time. And it has other drawbacks as well. It keeps us from forming genuine, deep relationships. Pretty soon we don’t know who we are any more – what is pretense and what is really us. The worst of it is that pretending doesn’t cut it with God at … Continue reading →

homosexual politics

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In my first post I told of my gay experience, and now I want to share what I discovered in my research about homosexuality. There are numerous opinions about the cause of homosexuality, as well as whether there is any real, permanent “cure.” I have found this subject to be extremely political. Be warned that you cannot always believe what you read, even by experts on human behavior. 00

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john’s gay experience

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I am a Seventh-day Adventist with same-sex attractions (SSA). Most would label me gay, even though I am now celibate. I am a second son. My father was rarely home from the time I was born until I was a young adult. +3-5

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trials and blessings from god

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After I decided to surrender my life back to the Lord, it was as if I was in a different world.  Sometimes I’d be sooo happy with the decision I’d made because of the peace it brought me.  At other times, I’d almost be in a panic, thinking what had I done?!! 00

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my gay experience and god

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I knew I was different for as long as I can remember. My earliest memories were same sex feelings.  I won’t bore you with all the common childhood and teen experiences at this time, but suffice it to say, back in the fifties, the only option I felt open for me, was to get married. 00

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my gay son

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My son is gay. I always knew he was. But I can’t blame myself for my son’s being gay. Of course, we can all look back on the way we raised our children, and wished we had done some things differently, but that’s true of gays or straights, homosexuals or heterosexuals — at least for those who were married and had children. When I grew up, I figured that I was what I was because of the way I was raised and the choices I had made. However, I no longer believe this to be entirely the case. When I was little, I used to play with dolls. I had a collection of about two dozen that I played with, … Continue reading →